“Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
The Cord of Three Strands symbolizes the joining of one man and one woman by God into a marriage relationship. Marriage takes three; you, your soon to be spouse, and God. It was God who taught us to love. By keeping Him at the center of your marriage, His love will continue to bind you together as one throughout your marriage.
Usually there is a reading while the strands are woven together. A sample reading …
Today, [name of groom]and [name of bride]have chosen to braid three strands together into a single cord. Each strand has a significant meaning.The gold strand represents God and His majesty.The purple strand represents the groom and his life.The white strand represents the bride and her life.In braiding these three strands together,[name of groom]and [name of bride]have demonstrated that their marriage is more than a joining of two lives together. It is a unity with God as well. They have chosen to allow God to be at the center of their marriage,woven into every aspect of it. As Ecclesiastes 4:9-12reads,“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”
Below is an excerpt from the Art of Marriage by Wilferd Arlan Peterson. I was asked to include it in a marriage ceremony recently and it read really well.
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created. In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner; it is being the right partner.
What exactly is a virtual wedding? A virtual wedding is where one or both of the parties meet with the officiant online and not in person. Recently, we received permission from DHEC (the governing authority for SC weddings) to perform virtual weddings. Both of the parties have to be in the state of SC and one of the parties has to be in the physical presence of the officiant. You must have a SC marriage license.
And who says virtual ceremonies can’t be just as romantic as in-person ones? If you want to get married online, we will help you create a personalized and unique experience that will be administered over Zoom or another video platform of your choice.
How does it work? First, you get a marriage license. We recommend you apply for one online through the Richland County Probate Court. See our post here to apply. Next, make an appointment with one of our officiants. We usually perform the ceremony outside (COVID you know) but we can perform the ceremony inside if you are going to Zoom or otherwise share the ceremony with others.
Prices start at $125. This includes a video recording of the ceremony.
Call us today at 803-446-3405 of fill out the form below…
Yesterday I performed a really neat ceremony for a couple. It is the Unity Plant Ceremony. This would be a great alternative to the Unity Candle Ceremony particularly if your ceremony is being held out of doors. Candles blow out. And like the sand ceremony, you have a physical token that represents your union through the years. What makes it even more special is that your token is alive!
Sample Unity Plant Ceremony
The Bride and Groom and their families are now going to participate in the Unity Plant Ceremony. The ceremony symbolizes the roots of their relationship and the continued growth of their love.
Long before ______ and _______had the pleasure of knowing each other, their families provided them with a foundation of love and support which has made them into the people we see before us today. To honor their families, _____ and __________ will each start by adding dirt from their parent’s home. Just as their families have been the foundation of who they have become, this dirt will be the foundation of their new family.
The love of their families has allowed ______ and _______to grow into the wonderful and unique people they are. This plant is a symbol of their new life, and how they will grow for years to come. _____ and _____ let your relationship and your love for each other be like this plant. Let it grow tall and strong. Let it endure the harsh winds and rains and storms, and come through unscathed. Remember to nourish each other with words of encouragement, trust, and love. With constant nourishment this tree, and your marriage, will grow deeper, stronger, and more resilient with each passing year.
I receive many calls from couples looking for a Justice of the Peace (JOP). That position does not exist anymore in South Carolina.
If you need your marriage license signed call us at 803-446-3405
After couples receive their marriage license many of them search for a JOP to marry them. Unfortunately, there is no such thing as a JOP in South Carolina anymore. The position has been phased out and the last justice of the peace retired in 2008. Notaries and municipal judges have taken over the roles once provided by justices.
If you need to have your marriage license signed, a notary can perform that task. We offer this service and have married many couples with just a simple signing ceremony.
Please give us a call at 803-446-3405 if you need your marriage license completed.
At the end of almost every wedding ceremony is “The Kiss”. The wedding officiant makes the pronouncement, the couple is married, and the officiant says “Congratulations, you may kiss your bride” or “Congratulations, you may seal your marriage with a kiss.” This is a very private and profound moment for the couple. Their first kiss as a married couple.
As a wedding officiant, I make every effort to NOT be in that picture. Unlike this gentleman here,
See the little peek a boo by the officiant there in the center of the picture? Awful!
I always step to the side before prompting the kiss. A couple does not need to see my smiling face for the rest of their marriage!
Rather, a first kiss photo should look like this,
Just the couple and no wedding officiant in the picture, anywhere!
So be sure to ask your officiant to step aside and stay out of the frame for that first kiss as a married couple. And if I am your wedding officiant I promise I won’t be!
Your wedding day is a special day! You should make sure to get as many photos as possible to remember it by. A great way to insure you get those special photographs is to hire a professional photographer to take them for you. But whether you hire a photographer, or have a family member or guest take your photographs, you need a plan! You need a wedding day essential photo shot list. So many essential photos can get overlooked in the hustle and bustle of a wedding day. Here is a list of the most essential wedding photos you need to take if you can. Remember, this is the bare essentials.
Wedding Day Essential Photo Shot List
Bride with individual Bridesmaids
Bride with all Bridesmaids
Bride alone, close-up, waist up, 3/4, full length front and back
Groom with individual Groomsmen
Groom with all Groomsmen
Groom alone, close-up, waist up, ¾,full length front and back
Groomsmen with minister in minutes before
Grooms party enters
Bridal party down the aisle
Flower girls and ring bearers
Bride down the aisle
Groom’s reaction to bride (this has become a HUGE ordeal in the past years)
Standard Ceremony items: readings, prayers, unity candle/sand, rings, vows
Pronouncement of Marriage
bride and groom with bride’s parents
bride and groom with bride’s parents and siblings, in-laws, grandparents
bride and groom with both families
bride and groom with both sets of parents
bride and groom with groom’s parents bride and groom with groom’s parents and siblings, in-laws, grandparents
20+ creative shots of the couple in a variety of poses, smiling, kissing, in action, sexy poses, making sure to get a variety of styles, locations and crops, full length, scenic, close up, 3/4 etc.
You can take pictures of your documents with your smart phone or scan them if you have a scanner to upload the application website. The pictures or scans must be in one of the following formats; .gif, .jpeg, .pjpeg, .png, or .pdf.
You should receive your license (3 copies) within a week after applying in the mail. DO NOT sign or fill out any copies of the license in any way once you receive them. You MUST sign in the presence of an officiant or notary public. The court does NOT perform marriages.
If you have any questions give us a call or text and we will try and help you with the process. Call 803-446-3405
The Richland County Probate Court will open beginning Tuesday, April 21 2020, for marriage license applications. The open periods are staggered between morning and afternoon, for only 2 days in the current week.
The applications are being taken in the lobby. You MUST wear a mask!
Get Your SC Marriage License During Court Shutdown
Its a terrible time right now isn’t it? Social distancing, virus scares, layoffs, even toilet paper shortages. But even so, some couples still want (or need) to get married! Nothing stands in the way of true love! Problem was you had to apply in person at the probate court, but the courts are closed and if they are closed that means no marriage license. Lucky for everyone though, several South Carolina probate courts have found a way to solve the problem. No matter where you are in SC you can use one of these services to get your marriage license and have it mailed to you. Now, you can apply by mail and the court will mail you a license. And no, you DO NOT have to be a resident of either of these counties or even the state of South Carolina. You can get your license from them and use it anywhere in South Carolina (but only in SC).
Charleston County uses a virtual interview process. Just click on the link above, follow the directions, schedule an appointment, and pay the fee. Give us a call if you have any questions or when you are ready to get married after you have your license.